But I Don’t Wanna!

No, I’m not talking about my kids’ reaction to something.  I’m talking about NFP, actually.  Someone mentioned that it’s no wonder that people leave the Church or don’t become Catholic, given the stance on NFP/contraception.  I don’t disagree with the observation, necessarily, since choosing to use NFP is a sacrifice, and that isn’t all that attractive to most of us, at least not at first.  I well remember my own visceral reaction when I read the Church’s stance on contraception and NFP.  I was already determined to convert, but I was not at all happy to read about that, or to hear that maybe I was wrong.  So my first reaction was just to get angry about it and try to explain it away or rail against that particular teaching or explain how I was somehow exempt.  So yes, I can understand why people leave or don’t enter the Church due to this – it’s a hard teaching, though I can definitely say that it’s worth it.  After all, anything worth something is going to be hard work and require sacrifice.

It gets a little harder, actually, because we also can’t use NFP to avoid pregnancy without just reason.  See this document on EWTN for more information on that.  Again, the first reaction can sometimes be “but I don’t wanna!”.  It’s our natural gut reaction to want to rebel when we’re told to do or not to do something.  Or at least that’s my initial reaction a lot of the time.  As with following NFP at all, though, following it in a way that is just is also worth it.  I’m reminded of the reaction when the disciples heard Jesus’ teachings on marriage and divorce, actually, since they, too, thought it a difficult teaching (Matthew 19:10).  But we are called to holiness, and that requires sacrifice and selflessness, which is also what NFP can help teach us.

I should add that couples don’t have to follow NFP.  They’re free to not chart at all and leave it all up to God, and I think that’s great.


Book Nook

On to that classic The Wind in the Willows by Kenneth Grahame.  It’s another one that I read as a child, though I’d not thought much about it in the intervening years.  Instead, it was my uncle who reminded me of the book, stating that it was one of his favourites.  And so when I found a copy of it, I snatched it up.  I’d read an online copy of it to K prior to having a hard copy, so he’s been exposed to it from quite a young age.  He’s very fond of Mr Toad, Badger, Ratty, and Mole.  As with the Just So Stories, his favourite story varies from time to time.  His love of cars sometimes influences his decision in that regard, so he often reads about Mr Toad’s adventures in the car.  I highly recommend reading these stories.

But We Must Do Something!

Maybe it’s just me, but it seems that sometimes in medicine (thinking specifically of maternity/intrapartum/neonatal) the reason for doing something seems to be for the sake of doing something.  Maybe there’s really a problem, maybe not, but the default often seems to be to do something, anything.  Now, I’m not saying action isn’t sometimes justified, because it is, and I’m very grateful for modern medicine.  However, it seems to me, bearing in mind that I have no medical training, that it makes more sense to do nothing until and unless action is indicated.  Shouldn’t we have to justify taking an action, instead of justifying not taking an action?  This is one reason I’m in favour of delayed cord clamping (see this page for Dr Nicholas Fogelson’s thoughts on this), against routine infant circumcision, against continuous foetal monitoring, in favour of the woman getting to move around and eat and drink during labour as she wishes, in favour of a natural delivery of the placenta, etc.  Surely the default should be to leave the body alone unless it can be shown that an intervention is truly beneficial?  And that interventions shouldn’t be used 100% of the time?  When interventions are indicated, I also feel that the least amount of intervention that will accomplish the goal should be used.  After all, we don’t want to make McCoy’s mistake when he was overly aggressive in treating Spock and temporarily blinded him.

Going to Get You!

This is what my son says to me after dinner when he wants to play.  He’ll come up to me and say “I going to get you, Mom!”, when he will then proceed to tickle me, get my nose, or run away so I can hide.  I love this time of day when we can play like this.  I’ll usually hide behind doors or curtains while he tries to find me.  I’ll call out his name, and he’ll start looking around going “Mummy?” or “Where’s Mom?” (yes, he alternates between calling me Mom and Mummy).  C joins in the game and I usually end up holding her whilst playing so she doesn’t give away my location too easily.  Both kids love playing this, and K will beg to play “one more time” about 10 times before we tell him that it really it is time for bed.  Love it.

See the Button?

Did you see the Swagbucks button to the left?  You should click on it.  Swagbucks has seriously helped us out.  We usually get Amazon vouchers with the Swagbucks, which means we didn’t have to pay out of pocket for K’s birthday (I did have some vouchers from various survey sites, too, but at least £10 of it was from Swagbucks).  Every little bit adds up, so check it out.


Chewing on the power cables.  Yep, that’s C.  She likes to try chewing on power cords (don’t worry, I make sure she doesn’t hurt herself), so I call her a mynock.  One more reason my husband loves me.

Knitting Thursday

Since there’s nothing much to report as far as knitting projects (still working on B’s sweater), I thought I’d talk about the yarn and needles I’m using.  The yarn is Wildflower DK by Plymouth, which is a nice yarn to use, I think.  It’s a fairly soft yarn, and it knits up really well.  I’ve even had great luck with unravelling things and starting new projects with the yarn.  It’s sad that it’s being discontinued, but so it goes.

I’m using size 5 bamboo circular needles for this project.  I really like bamboo needles.  They’re nice and smooth, and don’t split my fingertips if I’ve not knitted in a while like metal needles tend to do.  I’ve never really liked straight needles, which I’m sure is at least in part because I used circular needles when I first started knitting.  So even if I’m just knitting back and forth, I prefer the circular needles.