I’ve mentioned cloth pads before, but a friend created this post going into detail about all the options. I highly recommend checking it out!
When I had Kieran, I learnt that breastfeeding can be a contentious subject. One of the many debates centers on whether weaning should be mother-led or child-led. The former states that the mother should direct weaning, often starting with schedules and limits on time. The other end of the spectrum is child-led weaning, which states that the child should have complete control of weaning.
For a younger child (say, under 18 months or so, definitely under 12 months), I firmly believe in letting the child call the shots. Those numbers are purely my opinion, of course.
That being said, I also think that the debate over mother- or child-led weaning is a false dichotomy, at least when they’re a little older. In some cases, this is due to other circumstances that make it more difficult for the mother to continue breastfeeding. For example, Kieran was still primarily breastfed when I fell pregnant with Charlotte. For one who haven’t breastfed through a pregnancy, let me tell you that it wasn’t pleasant for me. I didn’t want to cut him off completely, but I felt like I was crawling out of my skin every time he latched on. So I started limiting the length of time he was on a little, and the decreased milk supply from pregnancy did the rest. I talked to him about it, and overall it was a smooth transition. Once the milk came back, he actually picked it right back up, though I found I had to again limit for my sanity (tandem feeding is great, but can be draining).
When Charlotte was 19 months, I felt no need to try to wean. I wasn’t pregnant, and breastfeeding wasn’t a problem, so I continued letting her feed. As she neared two, I did sometimes impose limits, mostly by asking her to wait a little if I was busy, and she could understand that. This is just to show that each breastfeeding relationship is a bit different, as are the other circumstances.
So what’s my end take on this? I think there can be a balance between mother- and child-led weaning when the child is a bit older. This can be due to the mother being pregnant again (note: breastfeeding during pregnancy is fine, and I’m glad I have done this, but breastfeeding during pregnancy can be uncomfortable for some) or just needing a little more space. I think when done in a balanced way, where there is a lot of respect for the child’s needs and wishes, too, it is ok. But then, I’m just hashing out some of my thoughts based on my experiences.
On Tuesday, Charlotte turned 2 and she wore her brand new cardigan. I also made a matching headband, but she wouldn’t keep it on.
I didn’t make the tea set, my mother and one of her friends did, but it’s too cute not to include.
I seem to have misplaced my mantilla, so I’m now making a snood. I do have some scarves I wear, and even got a compliment on my pashmina today, but that one can get a bit warm. I hope I like the snood once it’s finished.
One of Charlotte’s favorite books of late is Henry’s Awful Mistake by Robert Quackenbush. Henry the duck is cooking a nice dinner for his friend, Clara. All is going well until he sees an ant! Unfortunately, his overzealousness in destroying the ant has dire consequences for his evening plans, but thankfully he learns from the mistake in the end.
Thank you to RAnn for hosting the carnival. I’m sorry I missed out on posting last week; I wasn’t feeling well, so blogging hasn’t been high on my priorities. I’m therefore listing the posts from both weeks (there aren’t many). Last week I only had my standard posts of the Book Nook and Crafty Thursday.
We live in a world of convenience, and this is nowhere more evident than the grocery store, I think. One can easily procure a variety of breads, tinned soup and stock, and even precut vegetables. While those options are great for when they’re needed, such as when a working parent hasn’t the time for the prep work, I do think we’ve lost something with all the convenience.
I know, that may sound silly. How have we lost something when our technology has allowed us to have all these products of convenience? I’ll admit that I didn’t even know I’d lost anything until I was an adult. My first glimpse of what I’d lost was when we were visiting my husband’s family. One of his parents made some great soup – from scratch! I truly had no idea how to make soup! Now, of course, that seems incredible, for soup isn’t exactly difficult. In fact, I made some for lunch recently. Before that encounter, I was content with tinned soup, but after that, I just wanted to learn to make soup. My mother-in-law sent me a recipe for French onion soup, and away I went, happy in rediscovering the joys of homemade soup.
Over the years, I’ve started making my own bread, jam, stock, puff pastry, pasta, etc. I will note that I always made cakes from scratch, and did grow up helping my mother make sourdough bread and cinnamon rolls, but I hadn’t made sandwich bread, baguettes, stock, etc. Now, I much prefer making them from scratch, not just because they taste better and don’t have all the preservatives and salt that most foods seem to have, but also because I think knowing how to do these things is important. OK, so I use a bread maker for the sandwich bread and jam, but I do the rest by hand. I can do the others by hand, but don’t always make the time.
Why is this knowledge important? For one, I think we gain a better understanding of and relationship with our food when we make it ourselves. We grow to understand the processes and nuances and flavours. I vaguely remember my grandmother standing over the stove making grape jam, so I at least had a rough idea of the process when i decided to make plum jam (even if i did end up cheating).
I think it’s healthier, for we can omit the high fructose corn syrup and scale down the salt and omit ingredients that we simply don’t like. Most important: it tastes better and is more fun! My children enjoy helping in the kitchen, and I usually enjoy having them help. And when I taste homemade lasagne (with homemade pasta and sauce) along with homemade garlic bread, there’s nothing better. There’s nothing wrong with the convenience products, but I do think we lose something when we use them exclusively.
At this point in our home education journey, with my eldest child just four years old, I follow the path of autonomous education, or letting the child direct what is covered and when. At this age, I don’t believe in rushing him, especially since I know that pushing him causes him to refuse to do what I’m pushing, sometimes for months. I certainly don’t want that to happen with learning, so I don’t use, but offer to teach and provide opportunities for learning. This can be through reading (something we do quite a lot), talking about various things we see, going to the zoo, attending Mass, or just playing at home or with other children.
I am occasionally asked if I’ve started school with Kieran. It’s an interesting question, really. No, I haven’t started formal school, as most would define it. However, if one uses a broader definition, then I have started school with him, and did so years ago, for every day provides an opportunity to learn. I tend to believe that by exposing my children to various things and trying to instill curiosity, they will naturally want to learn.
Today Kieran proved that for me. This morning he declared that he was looking up words in a book. I think he can recognise certain words (he isn’t one to show off his knowledge, so I’m sometimes taken by surprise by what he knows). I asked if he wanted me to teach him to read, and he said he did, though he then asked to play a game. This evening, though, both kids were drawing when Kieran suddenly declared that he’d drawn a seven – and he had! After that, he wanted to draw an H, but was having trouble, so he asked me to show him. He proceeded to draw a few more before asking me to show him how to draw an F and a C. He lost interest after that, so I let it go, knowing he will come back to it when he’s ready.
So far, autonomous education is working with us. I won’t lock myself into one educational philosophy or style, for his needs or learning style might change, or we might find that it doesn’t work as well with certain topics. And of course Charlotte is her own person, so a different approach might be needed with her. But for now, I’m enjoying this adventure.